What do you think of men who are otherwise heterosexual but do occasionally enjoy the company of another man in a sexual manner? Do you think it emasculates a man or makes him gay if he has a desire to experiment?
How would you react if your significant other came to you and told you he wanted to be with another man? Could/would you let him? Would it freak you out?
Or does the thought of two men pleasuring one another stimulate you? Would you enjoy the thought that your man could please another man in a sexual way & feel the freedom and security to openly do so?
Would you like to watch your man taken by another?
Would you want to watch them together? Do you think it would sexually stimulate you? Would you want to join them or be satisfied to sit on the sidelines?
What if it was your man's ultimate fantasy? Could you deny him the ultimate experience?
Tell me your thoughts...
My personal thoughts...
Perhaps it's just me, perhaps I am a rarity or perhaps it's my position in the lifestyle, but either way I can honestly say I don't find the thought of two men repulsive by any means and nor do I believe that it emasculates a man when he enjoys the sexual companionship of another male. I find anyone who thinks it does quite small minded.
Frankly, I actually find it stimulating to think of my male wanting to be with another.
Just as with women being together I believe that a person of the same sex can offer certain insights and feelings that one of the opposite sex can't.
I personally encourage men to seek out another and experience the intimacy and thrill of being in a sexual relationship with another man from time to time.
I would be honored & excited to have the privilege of watching my male with another, joining in if invited or simply knowing my male is seeking and receiving sexual satisfaction from all avenues in life. Why the hell not? I do!
If it doesn't make me less of a woman or a lesbian to be with a girl then why should it make him less of a man? I think it actually makes them more of one in that they can admit they have the desire or need to be with a person of the same sex!
Would I want to join them? If invited to do so, you bettcha!
If my man came to me today and told me that he would like to experience the pleasure of another man's touch, that it was truly his ultimate fantasy, I'd be all over the idea.
I think as long as certain respect & safety concerns were addressed and all parties were committed to not crossing defined lines, preferably by a contract of sorts, there should be no question. But even if it were a spontaneous decision, during another of our wickedly delightful sexual excursions, that would be ok with me too!
My man would deny me nothing, why should I not hold him in the same respectful position.
Experimentation is the key to self satisfaction.
Enjoy life, it's far too short not to!
Excellent article. It is something I have thought about for a while, as I always say don't knock something until you've tried it
ReplyDeleteI loved seeing my man with another, there was something so sensual about it.
ReplyDeleteIt is good to try new things as you will never know if you enjoy it or not.
*bites n kisses*
No matter if a man is gay, bi or straight, the experience of sexual love between two men is completely different than with a woman. I feel the same way about two women loving each other too.
ReplyDeleteOh, I have said before that the idea of two men together, two such dominant creatures, just thrills me to no end. Given the opportunity, especially to be involved myself - Yes! But then that is easy for someone like me to say as my whole life writing, imagination, is all separate from my real life, dating and all! But I assume that is why I like to write it so much ;)
ReplyDeleteI don't think it in any way emasculates a man, if it did, I doubt I would be interested any longer to be honest. To me it is the thrill of watching two dominant personalities interact.
It does nothing for me. I don't care if other men indulge in it. Good for them. I subscribe to the live and let live philosophy. But for me, men do not turn me on sexually. I disagree with the narrow minded comment. People, feel how they feel. That doesn't make them narrow minded. I personally find the thought of another man touching me, repulsive. That doesn't make me narrow minded. I have many gay and lesbian friends and I support a great many GLBT political activisms, those that want equal rights, not special rights, etc. However it doesn't make me narrow minded, just because I don't want some guy to boink me in the backdoor.
ReplyDeleteBrindle, I think you misunderstood my comment a little. I wasn't saying a person's personal preference made him/her narrow minded, just the point that anyone who does think it makes someone less of a man to be with another was narrow minded. You say you support the GBLT & right to preference. You are right, you are NOT narrow minded at all. Your preferences have no bearing on your support.
ReplyDeleteHave never felt it was my place to judge anyone and thankfully I was raised in an environment of tolerance. What two or more consenting adults choose to do in private is their business. I think all expressions of sexual intimacy are beautiful in their own way.
ReplyDeleteGina, you have posed a question that would almost never come up between a man and his SO after they'd entered into their relationship. Mundane sexual wants and needs are difficult enough to talk about at the beginning of the relationship. If they didn't talk about it at the very beginning, then something as flammable as bi-sexual desires would surely stay in the closet forever unless he gets caught. Truthfully, every man and woman should have a kink list that's presented to prospective SO's. That way they can both make "fully informed" decisions about each other.
ReplyDeleteNow, having said that. I find the idea of a MFM three-some incredibly erotic and I've had the pleasure of participating in quite a few - it was great.
Ben, I have to disagree. It's my opinion that as couples grow and mature needs & wants can change and something that may have been way in the back of the mind at the beginning of a relationship may come forth as a partner gains more trust & feeling of ability to express a desire more openly. Some people can go years without expressing something as simple as desiring role play or being dominated until they are more comfortable in thier relationships & with themselves.
ReplyDeleteAs someone who's had this and seen it occur in many relationships - the increased trust - I'd also have to add that a desire for things in life may not always be clear even to that person until the opportunity presents itself.
I agree with Gina about relationships. I think a lot of people wouldn't trust a prospective partner with information like that early on in the relationship. It takes time for trust to build. Honestly, I've been with my husband for three and a half years, and I still have fantasies and desires that I'm not comfortable sharing with him.
ReplyDeleteI also think Gina's right that sometimes desires change over time. I have a friend who had never considered herself bisexual, until her late 40s when she realized she really wanted to make love to a woman.
As for Gina's question, I think two men together is incredibly erotic (which is one of the reasons I've begun writing M/M romance). I don't think it's emasculating; the mark of a man to me is how he treats his partner, not whether the partner is male or female. I don't think I'd want to watch my husband with another man, though; I'm kinda selfish and would want both of them to have their attention on me, not each other. LOL
I personally think m/m is hawwwwt. :) I've always joked with my Hubby, "Don't you dare bring another woman home, but if you want to bring a guy home, we'll talk." LOL
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